I lost my virginity to my girlfriend about a month ago...weve dont it a few times and ive gotten pretty good at it, but we havent tried any new positions or anything like that. So does anyone have any idea for us?
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best sex advice i have is breathe... breathe deep, time yourself with your breathing... you can last forever if your timing and your breathing are in synch.
after she orgasms 2, 3, 4, 5 times in that 30-45 minutes of control that deep breathing buys you, she's yours forever..
or maybe i'm just lucky like that...
scoops wrote:
best sex advice i have is breathe... breathe deep, time yourself with your breathing... you can last forever if your timing and your breathing are in synch.after she orgasms 2, 3, 4, 5 times in that 30-45 minutes of control that deep breathing buys you, she's yours forever..
or maybe i'm just lucky like that...
I already last like 30-40 minutes and yes the multiple orgasims are great, I just want to expand on ways to do it
Kelis wrote:
When you're done with the sex positions, try going into more kinky stuff. Sooner or later you'll find something you'll both like. Be sure to tape. You know, for future...er...reference.
...for future......
.... OH! you mean "record on tangible media"...
*puts away duct tape*
1) Talk
Quite honestly, it's the best thing you can do. Talk before sex, talk during sex, talk after sex. Talk when there's nothing sexual going on.
It doesn't have to be 20-questions or explicit directions, just talk. When watching a movie, point out things that you find interesting. Or curious. Or yucky. Let each other know what you think is "sexy" (e.g. wire-rimmed glasses, faded jeans, the scent of vanilla). Say "that feels good" or "oh.. that's not so good" or "that's weird... go slow and let me decide if I like it".
Tell her your fantasies and listen to hers. Watch for reactions in both directions.
2) Listen
Pay attention not just to the explicit statments ("Oh god YES!" or "Do that again and I'll leave you") but to the little things; Does she get a glint in her eye when she says the word "chocolate"? Is there an invitation implied when she says she's going to take a long bath? Is she trying to find out what turns you on when she asks you which dress to wear to dinner? When does she moan? When does she whimper? When does she hold her breath?
3) Laugh
Remember: It's okay to laugh during sex; just don't laugh and point. Sex is supposed to be *fun*. It's not all about wild thrusting and orgasms. Get playful. Be silly. Enjoy.
4) Try
Pull out a pair of handcuffs, twirl your mustache like a villain from a melodrama and do your best Snidely Whiplash laugh. If she gets a gleam in her eye, or puts on her best Nell face and says "Oh no! Please don't tie me up an ravage me!" then go for it. If she gives you "the look", then toss them aside with a "Curses! Foiled again!" and go back to something that worked before.
Put your hand where it hasn't been before. Put your tongue where it hasn't been before (and not just the obvious places--try the back of the knees, or the 3rd rib, or the earlobe, or that little indentation where the clavicles meet....) Listen to what she says (or doesn't say) feel how she reacts.
Get dominant, and see if she submits. Get submissive and see if she dominates.
Pull out the Hershey's syrup and the Redi-Whip.
Place her in the position you want her. Let her place you in the position she wants you.
There's a thousand and one books out there with a hundred and one positions (most of which require that you be a circus contortionist or the lovechild of Plastic Man and the She-Hulk). Those are fine for technical ideas, but they're not going to tell you how to have fun. That you've got to discover on your own.
Blaze wrote:
There's a thousand and one books out there with a hundred and one positions (most of which require that you be a circus contortionist or the lovechild of Plastic Man and the She-Hulk).
WRONG....UNIVERSES....
And you KNOW THIS!
*twitch*
Spazholio wrote:
Blaze wrote:There's a thousand and one books out there with a hundred and one positions (most of which require that you be a circus contortionist or the lovechild of Plastic Man and the She-Hulk).
WRONG....UNIVERSES....And you KNOW THIS!
*twitch*
But it was grammatically correct!
Spazholio wrote:
Blaze wrote:There's a thousand and one books out there with a hundred and one positions (most of which require that you be a circus contortionist or the lovechild of Plastic Man and the She-Hulk).
WRONG....UNIVERSES....And you KNOW THIS!
*twitch*
A) There are plenty of precedents
B) It was hyperbole, therefor exempt from the laws of continuity
C) Duh!
D) and..... your point is.....?
Kelis wrote:
SEX IS FUN FOR EVERYONE!
I understand the context that this was written in, but I really have to point out that it took five years, many miles between myself and my family and friends, and figuring out that I was submissive before I enjoyed sex even remotely. Before that I was just kind of making my boyfriend happy and assuming that one day it would be fun.
Sex can be very mentally, emotionally, and physically frustrating and painful unless you're in a place where you can really understand what it is that you want and need.
Not to put a damper on the thread. Just decided to point that out. Blaze's post on the means of communication was the one that I found myself nodding and saying "absolutely!" over.
*puts on his "Serious Hat"*
True, true. Communication is absolute when it comes to sex, considering that awkward silences can lead to drifting thoughts (Usually bad thoughts). It allows people to acknowledge each other, to at least whisper something intimate, to throw in a few humorus lines (Such as, "Christ, I twisted my left nut").
One should also try and understand how the other partner is feeling. I agree with Blaze's advice though I should toss in another pointer.
Awareness.
You can read off a person's feeling and behavior by taking careful notice of their expression and their physical reaction. Is she writhing about in pain or pleasure? Does she display a sense of encouragement or one of hesitation? Is there someone behind you with a baseball bat?
FMPhoenixHawk wrote:
ambrosia wrote:Kelis wrote:Is there someone behind you with a baseball bat?That happens to you too?
No bats. Swords, yes. But then, I'm often chased by sword-weilding assassins.
You too? I thought I was alone with that... Good to know that I'm not the only one ... :P
Oh yeah, I was thinkin about something else too. Sometimes she sucks my dick to get me horny and stuff and kisses me after, and one of my friends was like eww but I got to thinkin about it. Its not really nasty, I know all the places my dicks been and its pretty clean... so is it weird to get head and this kiss them right after you got it or am I just curious?
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